True with the exception that telling it like is isn't synonymous with negativity. Honesty with someone should include what is both positive and what is negative. If someone is constantly being truthful and their truth is always something bad - then I would take it as that person just doesn't like me, say f'em, and move on.
20 ene. 20 por el miembro: AboutMyTribe
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And if they dish it, they should be able to take it back
20 ene. 20 por el miembro: AboutMyTribe
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No...I don't sugar coat or say- here is what the positives are. As a supervisor, yes - note the positive and negative. But I'm talking strictly as a friend or any meaningful relationship - no - I just say it. And it's not an all the time thing because I wouldn't have close friends that I'm constantly bickering with or having differences of opinion. Usually we are like- minded.
20 ene. 20 por el miembro: davidsprincess
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I’m married to a straight shooter. Jess tells me what she thinks no matter what and I appreciate it. There are many that don’t appreciate it and take offense. It works for me and I think it’s refreshing to hear what someone really thinks, even if I don’t like it 😁
20 ene. 20 por el miembro: love2educate
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I grew up in a family where they always spoke the truth. I found it a bit stressful. Yes so you do not like my makeup. Why not just keep it to yourself... It is your opinion and you do not have to state it just because that is hwo you feel. That was the conclusion I came to. Some of my family is still like that. I can deal with it. I know them. My own policy is that some "truths" are not necessary to share
20 ene. 20 por el miembro: liv001
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Liv... Yeah that's kinda sucky. I guess I don't have a great example. Ummm... I mean more along the lines of your friend doing or saying something you strongly disagree with and being able to say so without that person boo-hooing and hopefully even respecting you enough to see your side and how wrong he /she is. Or at least not continuing to bring it up in front of you.
20 ene. 20 por el miembro: davidsprincess
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L2E... David tells me stuff I don't want to hear all the time. 🤷🏻♀️ i don't always love it and he may think I don't listen- but I tuck it away and make note of things. I never say "yes dear, you were right" 😆
20 ene. 20 por el miembro: davidsprincess
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Yes it is but sometimes the truth really does hurt.
20 ene. 20 por el miembro: ocean_girl
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I like my friends being honest with me. Plus your friends should know you for who you truly are and not take offense. But some people more sensitive then others. I always get myself in deep poo 💩 when we speak the truth.
20 ene. 20 por el miembro: ocean_girl
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Sometimes I wish I had a filter but I don’t.
20 ene. 20 por el miembro: ocean_girl
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Amen davidsprincess. I hate "walking on eggshells" If someone tells me something I don't particularly like or agree with, I try to see their point of view but if I still disagree it's ok. We are all individual with our own opinions. I value that and it doesn't bother me..it's ok to disagree.
20 ene. 20 por el miembro: Diana 1234
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20 ene. 20 por el miembro: designwebs
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So apropos, Princess! It's destructive to a relationship in which you feel you must always say what the other wants to hear in lieu of being honest... not claiming this as fact--it's just my humble opinion.
20 ene. 20 por el miembro: rokr6378
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Apropos... I quite like that word. I need to use it more often. 💕
20 ene. 20 por el miembro: davidsprincess
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I don't really like to say things that I know would hurt someone's feelings. So personal things that hurt, I stay away from. I also avoid talking about politics. I just don't like arguing or fighting if I can help it.
20 ene. 20 por el miembro: Fritzy 22
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I would tell a friend if she had lipstick on her teeth though. Some things you just have to know!
20 ene. 20 por el miembro: Fritzy 22
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My daddy was a straight shooter so I know no other way! LOL. Therefore all the people close to me are straight up. It makes me giggle when people meet me for the first time and apologize in advance for their "bluntness". If they only knew the man that raised me❤.
20 ene. 20 por el miembro: MamaCabral7
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I think the massive presence of internet, talk shows & social media has resulted in people 'telling it like it is' all in the defense of 'being honest' and 'being real' and with that mindset politeness and manners have faded. There's also a huge difference between 'a good friend' and a 'social media acquaintance'. Even with my 'close friends' or family, I try to temper my answer or opinion. Sure, I want honesty but I don't want to be suicidal afterward. More often than not, when a person claims they're 'being honest' it's used as a defense of criticism. Criticism is only helpful if it inspires us to improve.
20 ene. 20 por el miembro: FullaBella
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I was confused by the questions. 'Following' someone on the internet is different than a real life friend. A dear 10+year friend of mine criticized me once ... I've never felt the same around her. We're still friends and have discussed that incident but it didn't make our friendship stronger. I have never felt 'myself' around her and when I do return home after an outing I'm exhausted from pretending.
20 ene. 20 por el miembro: FullaBella
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People feel very free to say hurtful things on the internet, to people they never meet in person. It's very easy to be blunt, and takes much more effort to phrase things gently and politely.
20 ene. 20 por el miembro: gz9gjg
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